What is a good age for an active child to start violin?

I am the step mom. But my childs bio mom wants her to start violin now at age five. However, my step daughter tells me it's boring and wants to dance and swim. I'm not sure what to tell her. She tells her mom that she wants to play the violin when asked. So why would she tell me the opposite? I try to encourage her to learn the violin. Thats when she tells ME she does not like it. I have not told the mom she is telling me these things. Should I? Should i leave it alone, and keep encouraging her to play, like her mom wants? Or should i try to find a dance class for her. Of course I would talk the dance class over with her mom before i do anything. What would you do?

What is a good age for an active child to start violin?home theater system

AS YOUNG AS POSSIBLE! get her started on violin! that is wonderful! dont find a dance class. ask her mom if its okay if you go (or the 4 or 5 of you) buy a violin for her together, then you should all pitch in to pay for a private lessons instructor.

IM SO GLAD SHE WANTS TO START YOUNG! playing an instrument, especially violin, helps with hand/eye coordination, and reading music will help her with almost everything! i give you loads of kudos! do whatever it takes to get her interested.

What is a good age for an active child to start violin?the grand theater opera theater

Four or five isn't unusual, particularly for the Suzuki method. Leave this to the mom and dad to decide, though.
You should tell her father what she is saying and express your concerns. Then it is up to him if he wants to discuss it with her mother. Otherwise, I would stay out of it.

You also need to tell the little girl that if she really doesn't like violin and would rather do something else that she should talk to her mom and/or dad about it. She's not too young to speak up for herself.
I would talk to the mother about maybe signing the little one up for some swimming classes, don't even mention the violin...or at the most, say that it's good for a child to be well rounded...physical activities and music, etc. If it's ok, then I would talk to the little one and tell her that if she continues with the violin, then she can go to swimming too. When she gets a little older and more capable of expressing herself, if she still feels like she doesn't want to play violin, then you could help her to talk to her mom about it. Think of it like this, little kids don't always like to eat certain foods (like veggies), but as parents, we make them try everything. Given an acceptable attempt at trying it, if they still don't like it, we don't make them eat it. I would treat the violin and any other situation the same way. How does she know if she doesn't give herself a chance to really try? Also, you could ask her what she doesn't like about playing the violin and try to help correct those things. Maybe she doesn't like the teacher or the music, etc.
sounds like she really likes you so she feels like she can tell you what she wants to do but she probably doesn't want her mom to find out that she is able to tell you what she really wants to do. Violin at age 5 is kinda extreme its a hard instrument to play. Sounds like its more for what her real mom wants than her and well it just pressuring her and pressuring a 5 year old is not a good way to go. Tell her mom what she told you tell her she wants to dance and swim and that maybe let her grow a little more before you start her on violin don't keep encouraging her to play violin because it will just make her think you don't understand. But be careful how you tell her mom like find a sneaky way of doing it like say she is so interested in dance i cant even get her to practice violin because she just keeps dancing you should really consider a dance class or whatever works without getting her mad.
5..she is trying to play you guys up against each other. Tell her Mom what she says. It will be best if she have to say what she want or don't want in front of both of you. if she sees you together she will realize she cant play you guys up against each other.